No, no, no, not that obsession!
I feel like this warning, that we all click past so fast is an important one.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that I'm addicted to FFXI or anything. (Because if I admitted I had a problem then I could fix it, and this is one problem I don't want fixed!)
But there are fanatics out there. People who take their obsessions to the extremes. They take it so far, that I worry about them.
I'm not going to say who, but someone I know is obsessed with Robert Pattinson from the movie Twilight. It's not a healthy obsession either. It seems like every other word is about him, or about the second Twilight movie. It scares me.
She is so obsessed that she added what she thought was his Myspace as her friend. Well then she became very upset when she started to realize that it's probably not his myspace. She was emotionally and physically upset about such a trivial thing.
I dunno why I'm writing about this, but yeah. What do you guys think? Is there such thing as going too far with your obsession? Can it become unhealthy? When does obsession give way to addiction?
How do you help someone with this problem without hurting them? Saying "You're obsessed with..." usually doesn't start the conversation off on a friendly note.
What happens when they don't realize that my sarcasim is actually what I want to say, but I play it off as a joke to not hurt them?
No one's life should be so controlled by another person who they've never met, and know almost nothing about.
What about you? Have you ever had a celebrity crush? Is this all that this is? A crush? Will it subside if I just leave it alone?
Anyway, More FFXI stuff to come, I'll try to get in an update this weekend sometime.
<3 Ruru
3 comments:
Well of course it can be unhealthy and dangerous. All of these things you speak of can lead to STALKING.....And that is not only scary but illegal also.
You need to get "her" to start thinking about other unobtainable stars like, Clint Eastwood or Paul Newman...oh wait, paul is dead, but you know what i mean and make her realize that there's fantasy and then there's life. Life is always more fun where you can feel, smell, see, laugh and do all those good stuff.
Honestly, celebrity crushes (or even to some degree crushes on fictional characters even) are the least harmful of fixation/obsession/infatuation behaviours. After all, nothing will really come of it--as you noted there is no real "interaction" going on there that will lead to deeper (dangerous) levels that would occur if the person fixated on someone in their daily life.
That being said, celebrity crushes of this nature also are long-standing. For the exact reason that there is no "interaction" there is also no "closure" to these feelings. The person just thinks about the target of their affections in the most idealised way non-stop, but without any sort of real-life rejection or let-down these heady feelings just persist.
It is nice of you to try to help out, but really nothing short of an intervention (i.e. friends and family intervene to stop a self-destructive behaviour) or an insult by the celeb himself will change that person's mind. They might grow out of it--or it just might lead to other creative outlets, like fan fiction, daydreaming, amateur writing with characters inspired by the actor, or like Lola said...stalking, pining away, or flat-out obsession (and breaking-and-entering, court orders, etc.) ;_; But the last case is rather unlikely...most likely the worst that can come of this are badly written "Mary Sue" fan-fics (stories that feature a proxy protagonist for the author where they are the center of the entire story.) :p
Unlike Maho, I myself tend to fixate on people I know or meet in regular life. ^_- Not that the TV and movie stars aren't real at all (I do see a lot of them whenever I go to Las Vegas just walking around) it's just that people near you can share things with you. And be there with you. That means so much more.
Of course being rejected by someone you know in regular-life or even long-distance-virtual-life has a much greater immediacy of let-down, feelings of self-doubt, and sense of disappointment also...so while fan(atic) behaviour pleasantly avoids all that, it also is quite unrealistic.
In any event, it is best to have a realm of interests anyhow. I know you are a "Renaissance Taru" and try to learn about many different things into which you can pour your passion (and even your apathy.) :p That is best IMHO, for understanding and appreciating any (and all!) "greatest fan EVER!" types of friends that may come into your life. :p
Postscript: Nice save, by the way, on your post. Originally I was going to deride you on your "no post today" blog-holder entry and post all kinds of links and a-href'ed photos and quotes for this week's content. LOL Bon voyage!!!
lolTwilight. Obsessions are fine - at least her one was a real person. I tend to obsess fantacally over anime characters, being the geek I am. Not as a sexual obsession. Of course.
Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmm. Every fantasy needs a roleplayer. I think it's healthy and normal. Though, not to the extent where you're deluded that a million-dollar celebrity would even glance at your poor, lowly self.
Also, your word verification just asked me for 'nonion'. That was pretty awesome.
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